Some things are difficult to take back - for example, a "yes" in front of the altar. It's stupid if you realize afterwards that you weren't really ready for it. But as these stories show, it does happen.
We probably always perceive it very intensely, but it often happens that we only see clearly when it is too late: After separation, we suddenly realize what a rare treasure our ex was, after the job change, how well we had it in our old position, and after our wedding that we were utterly sweating to enjoy our single life again before. Once we have the ring on our finger, it is usually too late for that, unless we are ready to get it back also.
To be stripped. At "Whisper", numerous people have reported and shared about precisely this dilemma, which they regretted the most not having done before their wedding. And who is thinking of getting married soon, can ask himself if the following points are already checked off with her ...
Tell a married couple: I regret not having done this before my wedding.
1. get to know the groom better
"I regret not having got to know my husband better before we married. I think that would have made our marriage a lot easier because it was quite a challenge."
2. gain experience
"I would have liked to have travelled more before my wedding and tried a same-sex partnership. Some days I dream of being able to turn back time, do both, and only meet him afterwards."
3. travel
"Travel and see the world. I was so young, and my husband has no need to travel. I probably do it alone now in my late 40s or early 50s or so."
4. live alone
"I wish so much that I had lived alone once before I got married. I moved from my parents into a student dorm with roommates and from there with my husband. I never experienced what it is like to live alone."
5. conclude a marriage contract
"I regret not having signed a marriage contract before our wedding. I'm so afraid we'll get divorced, and she'll take everything I've worked for."
6. marry her earlier
"Really? The only thing I would have liked to do before my wedding is to marry her earlier! She's the best person in the whole world!"
7. partying and being single
"I wish I had been a bit more of a party person and had been single for a while when I was younger. I got married at 24. I love my husband, but it was way too soon."
8. wait and see
"I regret not having waited longer before my wedding. I threw myself into it far too quickly. Everyone says 'Awww, you guys went to high school together, but maybe that was my biggest mistake."
9. having a threesome
"I wish I had had a threesome before we got married. I know my husband experimented a lot before me, and sometimes it makes me feel insecure."
10. getting to know his family
"I wish I had gotten to know my husband's family better before our wedding. She is so unbearable, and I'm really not sure if I would have married him at all if I had known that at the time.
11. having a baby
"I wish I had had a baby before I got married. My husband is great, but he already has four children and doesn't want any more. I gave up my desire to have children for him, but I regret not having had one of my own before.
12. have sex
"There was no way I should have waited until the wedding to have sex. Sometimes I even resent my husband for it now, even though it wasn't his fault at all."
13. finish education
"I just wish I had graduated before I married. I feel I have to stay with my husband even if we don't get along because I don't have an education I can live on."
14. getting along on my own
"I wish I had learned to deal with my depressions and fears before I got married. I am grateful for the support my husband gives me, but I feel I would have to cope with it on my own, and I can't."
15. learn to love yourself
"I wish I had first learned to love myself. The fact that I didn't think of myself as lovable put a lot of strain on my marriage."